Because of your arrogance and your aggression, you prefer to talk about other peoples' defects as a way of building yourself up. The point of this slogan is NOT taking delight in somebody else's defects or injured limbs.
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This is not a puritanical approach to reality, but simply realizing that if a person has problems in dealing with his or her life, we do not have to exaggerate that by making remarks about it. We could simply go along with that person's problems.

From TRAINING THE MIND by Chgyam Trungpa, 1993 by Diana Mukpo.
Published by arrangement with Shambhala Publications, Inc., Boston.